Sex is just as much stimulation of the mind as it is the body. Turning a merely sensual experience into a holistic one is considered the holy grail of sexual experiences, and requires a level of intimacy that not all relationships have. An experience you'll never forget is often the culmination of these notes being played over the course of a date, like a symphony that builds to a crescendo, and ends in complete relaxation and contentment.
The first step in allowing this process to happen is to gain access to your partner's intimate emotions. The sharing of all types of experience – the joyful, the sad, and the humorous, naturally allow barriers between two people to be lowered – at least temporarily. The level of trust built upon this sharing, opens both parties up creatively and gives each other a sense of how each other can be pleased and what types of physical intimacy they are open to. Are they looking for tenderness or aggression? Opening yourselves up allow natural instincts to take over where the act of lovemaking becomes an art form, and the body… The canvas.
Staring the date with a mutually fun and exciting activity is a good ice-breaking technique that breaks both parties from their comfort zone and allows a natural progression into deeper conversation and sharing as time goes on. Being able to laugh with someone creates an instant bond that few emotions can create. Once the emotional bond is achieved, the stimulation of the other senses through aroma, sound, and visual appeal makes the moment that much deeper and sanguine. Knowing your partners favorite sounds, colors, and foods disarm them from their self-preserving behaviors to allow the deep connection that turns good acts of sensuality into memorable ones.
Sex tips are more than just "how-and-when-to-put-what-where", and taking a more holistic approach certainly takes more effort, but the results will speak for themselves.